I heard a quote this week that really struck a chord with me:

“We are all just one circumstance away from really bad situations.”

It made me think, on many levels. It’s true for me. And probably true for you. And definitely true for the birthmothers we work with.
Adoption brings a child born to other parents into a new family. Birth parents have a number of reasons for placing children for adoption. In the end, it’s usually because they want better lives for their children than they feel they can provide.

Children who are placed for adoption come from many different circumstances. Still, we encounter people who think it is okay to say whatever they want about a child’s birth parents; the very people that gave your child life – and gave you the opportunity to be a parent. So, why do people think it is okay to speculate about the choices of birth parents? There are those who seem to believe that the only women who would place a baby for adoption are young, single, and poor. While that profile might fit some birth mothers, it certainly does not fit all.

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