What the match process really looks like
The match process is designed to move at your pace. You’re never rushed, never pressured, and never expected to choose before you’re ready. Your role is to explore, ask questions, and decide what feels right — with guidance and support every step of the way.
What the match process looks like in real life
You’re never rushed, pressured, or expected to decide before you’re ready.
You tell us what matters to you
We start by listening — your values, your comfort level, your hopes, and any boundaries you want respected. There’s no pressure to have everything figured out.2. You can explore waiting family profiles
You’re welcome to view adoptive family profiles and notice who feels like a potential fit to you. If a family stands out, you can let us know privately and securely.3. We help assess compatibility
Sometimes a family you like may have specific requirements or circumstances that wouldn’t support a healthy match. If that happens, we’ll be honest with you — and help recommend other families with similar values or openness, so your voice still leads the process.4. You decide if and when to connect
If and when you’re ready, connection might look like messages, a call, or simply learning more. There’s no expectation to move forward until it feels right to you.5. You can pause, change direction, or stop
You can slow down, ask questions, or step back at any point. Nothing moves forward without your consent.
What the match process looks like in real life
Every birth mother’s experience is different — this is the part most people want explained clearly.
You choose who you want to learn more about
You’ll be shown adoptive family profiles based on what matters to you — values, lifestyle, openness preferences, and more. You decide which families you’d like to explore further, and there’s never any pressure to move forward.
You can take your time — or pause completely
There’s no deadline to choose a family. Some birth mothers feel clarity quickly; others need more time. If something doesn’t feel right, you can pause, ask questions, or decide not to move forward — no explanations required.
Nothing moves forward without your consent
A match only happens if and when you’re comfortable. You’re not committing to anything by viewing profiles or having conversations. You remain in control of each step, and your comfort always comes first.
Explore waiting families — only if and when you’re ready
You can view adoptive family profiles at your own pace. Looking doesn’t commit you to anything
You’re supported by a real person — not a system
Matching isn’t handled by an algorithm or a checklist.
You’ll work with a dedicated matching specialist who takes time to get to know you, your situation, and what matters most to you. Their role is to listen, answer questions honestly, and help guide the process at a pace that feels right to you.
If a family you’re interested in isn’t a good fit for practical or legal reasons, your specialist will explain why and help you explore other options that align with what you’re looking for.
You’re not navigating this alone — and you’re never expected to move forward without clarity and support.
You stay in control — always
Nothing moves forward unless it feels right to you.
Explore without commitment
You can look at family profiles, ask questions, or simply get a sense of what’s out there — without agreeing to anything. Exploring your options doesn’t lock you into a decision.
Matching is personal, not automated
You’re supported by a real matching specialist who gets to know you and the families — not an algorithm. If a family you like isn’t the right fit, we’ll help suggest others that may align better with what you want.
You can pause, change, or stop
Your needs and feelings may change — and that’s okay. You can slow things down, revisit preferences, or stop the process entirely at any point. Your comfort comes first.