We Hear You–You Feel Powerless
We hear our adoptive parents. You feel powerless. You feel the birth mother has all the control. You feel this is a financial drain. You feel confused as to why…
Expectant Mothers–Not the Time to Make Rash Decisions
We’re adapting. Not downgrading Expectant mothers-- We are here for you. If you are an expectant mother and want to explore adoption as a plan, we may spend more time…
Open Adoption. It’s Good Except When It Isn’t
Not many generations ago, adoption was secret and often considered shameful for both the birth mother and the adoptive child. In loving consideration for this “shame,” adoptive parents habitually attempted…
Finding Joy – Our Search For My Son’s Birth Mom
Ours was a closed adoption. We were first foster parents for our little 5-week-old boy, knowing he may soon become adoptable. His birth mother was placing him for adoption, but the government of Guam was intent on finding someone within his extended family to adopt him. (more…)
Birth Mother – Missing Your Own High Expectations Is Not Failure!
Hello! My name is Rebekah. I am 39 years old and I am a birth mother to a wonderful five year old little boy named Tyrus. Before Tyrus was born I thought a lot about what I wanted my relationship to look like with him. (more…)
Love the Birth Mom
I heard a quote this week that really struck a chord with me:
“We are all just one circumstance away from really bad situations.”
It made me think, on many levels. It’s true for me. And probably true for you. And definitely true for the birthmothers we work with.
Adoption brings a child born to other parents into a new family. Birth parents have a number of reasons for placing children for adoption. In the end, it’s usually because they want better lives for their children than they feel they can provide.
Children who are placed for adoption come from many different circumstances. Still, we encounter people who think it is okay to say whatever they want about a child’s birth parents; the very people that gave your child life – and gave you the opportunity to be a parent. So, why do people think it is okay to speculate about the choices of birth parents? There are those who seem to believe that the only women who would place a baby for adoption are young, single, and poor. While that profile might fit some birth mothers, it certainly does not fit all.