Tim, Amber and Big Sister Thank Their Birth Mother
This is the perfect way for adoptive parents to show thanks to birth mothers. Tim and Amber used the acronym LIGHT to describe their birth mom Jessica. L-love I-Independent G-Giving…
Adoptive Mom Gets to Congratulate Birth Mom Years After Adoption
"It’s a boy! For the past five years, I had been waiting for this news. I had been praying faithfully for Ashley, my son’s birth mother. I wanted more than…
Adoption Song – From God’s Arms to My Arms to Yours
This song has been circulated all over the internet. It was written by Michael McLean at the request of a young women who was placing her baby for adoption. She…
Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women who never knew each other. One you do not remember the other you call mother. Two different lives shaped to make your one One became…
Love the Birth Mom
I heard a quote this week that really struck a chord with me:
“We are all just one circumstance away from really bad situations.”
It made me think, on many levels. It’s true for me. And probably true for you. And definitely true for the birthmothers we work with.
Adoption brings a child born to other parents into a new family. Birth parents have a number of reasons for placing children for adoption. In the end, it’s usually because they want better lives for their children than they feel they can provide.
Children who are placed for adoption come from many different circumstances. Still, we encounter people who think it is okay to say whatever they want about a child’s birth parents; the very people that gave your child life – and gave you the opportunity to be a parent. So, why do people think it is okay to speculate about the choices of birth parents? There are those who seem to believe that the only women who would place a baby for adoption are young, single, and poor. While that profile might fit some birth mothers, it certainly does not fit all.
Where’s the Handbook? Manual of Directions? Guidelines?
There isn’t one! There aren’t guidelines for learning how to instill pride in a child who has been adopted transracially.
When my husband, Mat, and I first looked into adoption, we were laser focused on how to adopt a baby rather than how to parent a child who would create our transracial family. We read everything we could find about successfully adopting, and spoke to anyone we could on the subject. We had dear friends who had adopted transracially, and were aware of some of the challenges that would arise, but less aware on how to tackle them. (more…)
It Happened. Again.
Ok Parents: Gear up. It happened again.
As parents of adopted children, we are aware that eventually questions will arise with our children regarding where they came from and why. (more…)